Jo. 33. Slytherdor or Slytherpuff depending on the day. INFJ. Madwoman with a Doric Column. Omnisexual, omniromantic, and sometimes gender ambivalent. Mildly annoyed. Welcome to my fandom, ooc, and misc. blog! Here be many things, but mostly Pacific Rim, Frozen, Queen's Blade, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, A Series of Unfortunate Events, assorted yuri and ecchi, perfume, jewelry, and tea stuff, and cats. Lots of cats.
For my Doctor who stuff, hit me up at askainleymaster.tumblr.com, where I roleplay Anthony Ainley's version of the Master and blog about all matters Whovian, with a special emphasis on the 1963-1989 years and the TV movie in 1996, also what is known as the classic series. Booyeah! Of course, Whovian stuff can also be found here, since it's a big part of my life.
I'm white, neuroatypical, pretty solidly middle class, and, of course, queer. I'm still trying to figure out gender identity and my relationship to it. I have severe anxiety and major depressive disorder, along with a bunch of other neurological things.
Pronouns: She and they.
*NB: this is, as i say NON EXHAUSTIVE, and I am talking about mental disabilities because that’s the only thing i feel even vaguely qualified to say anything about (and even then, big gaps in my experience and I’m going half off things I’ve read from other bloggers). if you have anything to add re: physical disabilities etc, feel free to add to this. I do NOT claim to represent the entire problem, just things that I’ve observed so far; there is much more to this*
-accusing MRA’s of having down’s syndrome, being autistic or being dropped as a baby etc.
-reference to sexist men having no social skills, living in mom’s basement etc.
-generally mocking people for lack of social skills
-mocking people for taking things literally which were not meant to be taken literally
-mocking or shouting at people for not understanding complex/abstract things like oppressive structures
-assuming that these people are not negatively affected by oppressive structures, simply because they cannot understand them
-mocking or shouting at people for not understanding terms
-mocking or shouting at people for not using 100% perfect language
-speaking for intellectually disabled people on issues such as, if “stupid” is acceptable and so on (issues which are still hotly debated and by no means certain within the anti-ableism community, never mind NT feminists deciding they’ve got the vote on this)
-allowing no points to be considered unless they are worded absolutely perfectly
-assuming that disabled people are unable to speak for themselves, so abled feminists have to speak for them
-appropriating disabled narratives to make them about other issues
-appropriating ableism in general as a mere facet of other forms of oppression
-emphasis on “bad social skills” as something inherently oppressive
-pride in any mental skill apart from social skills, taken as elitist and snobby
-use of the word “unintelligent” as a supposedly preferable alternative to “stupid”
-myth of “overall intelligence” perpetuated or at least not commonly challenged.
-NT people who just can’t be bothered to think critically/empathise/fact check, calling ableism when somebody calls them out on that
-NT people not caring about or mentioning ableism until they can use it to yell at someone they don’t like
-ableism left out of every oppression list—e.g. “cis het white male” being taken as code for “privileged in literally every way”, etc.
-“intent isn’t magic”
-no accommodation made for different people’s needs and abilities in regard to the necessity for media criticism etc.
-no accommodation made for different needs and abilities in regard to demands for new words being implemented.
-posts about ableism get relatively very few notes compared with posts about sexism, heterosexism etc.
-posts about body positivity for visibly disabled people get few notes
-posts about relatively normative people having complicated relationships with their bodies, get many notes compared with posts about neurodivergent people having complicated relationships with their minds.
-disabled people continually dying due to ableism or ableism-classism combination, tumblr gives no shits.
-requirement for people to have good social skills, normative use of humour and physical attractiveness before they are listened to.
-photographing people without consent.
Also, don’t forget telling people to “kill yourself” in various permutations when they do something wrong (usually anonymously, I might add).
Or accusing everyone who doesn’t do epic call outs of any and all -isms whenever they see it as contributing to the problem, even though disabilities like anxiety disorders, depression, and more may make that not a safe or healthy form of activism for them to engage in,especially if they’re coming out of a panic attack or a long period of clinical depression. Because calling already oppressed people—many of whom ID as women, by the way—oppressors because their brains and nervous systems don’t work like you want them to is totally feminist and doesn’t at all contribute to ableism, further silence us and exclude us from activist movements, or make us feel even worse and more defective. /sarcasm
If you think activism is one size fits all, you’re doing it wrong.
► Name ➔ KellerJo
► Will you answer all questions truthfully ➔ sure
► Are you single ➔ happily taken since 2004
► Are you happy ➔ eh.
► Are you Italian ➔ No
► Are you German ➔ No
► Are you Asian ➔ No
► Are you Irish ➔ Nope
► Are your parents still married ➔ divorced since I was one year old, and my father died in 1997.
► Birth Place ➔ Boston
► Hair Color ➔ brown/black
► Eye Color ➔ dark brown
► Birthday ➔ August
► Mood ➔ exhausted
► Gender ➔ at least somewhat female
► Lefty or Righty ➔ right, but can write with my left if need be
► Summer or winter ➔ WINTER. God, I hate Florida summers.
► Morning or afternoon ➔ neither. Evening and night!
TEN THINGS ABOUT YOUR LOVE LIFE
► Are you in love ➔ yes
► Do you believe in love at first sight ➔ I think it’s rare, but on a planet of seven billion people, it’s probably happened more than a few times
► Who ended your last relationship ➔ she did
► Have you ever broken someone’s heart ➔ yes, unfortunately
► Are you afraid of commitments ➔ not in general
► Have you hugged someone within the last week? ➔ yes
► Have you ever had a secret admirer ➔ if so, they never told me; not a lot of people are attracted to me
► Have you ever broken your own heart? ➔ yeah, all the time
► Love or lust ➔ both
► Lemonade or iced tea ➔ lipton’s ice tea only
► Cats or Dogs ➔ cats bc they aren’t needy
► A few best friends or many regular friends ➔ a few besties
► Television or internet ➔ internet!
► Pepsi or Coke ➔ both are disgusting
► Wild night out or romantic night in ➔ romantic night in
► Day or night ➔ day
► IM or Phone ➔phone
TEN HAVE YOU EVER
► Been caught sneaking out ➔ never have sneaked out
► Fallen down/up the stairs ➔ yep, and sprained my ankle
► Finished an entire jawbreaker ➔ no because that’s a greatway to wreck fillings
► Wanted something/someone so badly it hurt? ➔ Mhm.
► Prank called a store ➔ no, I’ve never prank called anyone
► Skipped school ➔ some college classes yes
► Wanted to disappear ➔ with distressing regularity
► Smile or eyes ➔ eyes
► Light or dark hair ➔ I like people of all color combinations, so both are good
► Shorter or Taller ➔ I have always been the tall one in a relationship (save for my first and only boyfriend), so it’d be nice to have a change, but I don’t care much
► Intelligence or Attraction ➔ Attraction, because it encompasses a lot of things; someone can be intelligent (though who knows what that means, since there are a lot of ways to measure it), but you may not like them at all
► Hook-up or Relationship ➔ relationship (though I don’t think ook-ups are wrong at all, provided all parties are on the same page about what is going on—same as relationships, really)
► Funny and poor OR rich and serious ➔ huh?
ABOUT ME► Last Phone Call ➔ my partner
► Last person you hung out with ➔ my brother-in-law
► Last thing you ate ➔ veggie patties
► Last thing you drank ➔ rose petal black tea!
► Last site you went to ➔ Tumblr lol
► Last place you were ➔ the pharmacy
► Do you and your family get along ➔ quite well! I’m very lucky for that.
► Would you say you have a “messed up life” ➔ somewhat
► Have you ever run away from home ➔ outside of pretending to as a kid? No.
► Have you ever gotten kicked out ➔ no